I say curiosity didn’t kill the cat, curiosity liberated the cat. It’s always good to have a good ol’ kick of curiosity in our stride especially when it comes to relationships. Some of us go into a relationship not even questioning why we’re in it in the first place, let alone who we are in it with. I think some evaluation is in order, wouldn’t you agree?

 

1. Does he have a clear idea of his own purpose, dreams, and ambitions in life?
It is not your job to define your ‘him’; this is something he has to do for himself. I know you’re thinking ‘Hey, we’re still young, so we don’t necessarily need to have everything about our lives figured out yet’. True. However, would you really want to be stuck with a person who not only doesn’t know his own purpose but doesn’t have clue about what he’s doing with his life at all? If he can’t discover his own dreams and ambitions, what purpose is he going to contribute in your life? A guy who is unsure of himself is less likely to have stability, and the last thing you want is a guy that you constantly have to reassure in order for him to feel some sense of validation and worth. In a nutshell, just make sure he’s a steady one.

2. Does he have a strong moral code?
When you look at your ‘him’, do you see the kind of person that you would like your son to aspire to be? Yes, it’s that deep girls. Having a strong moral code is more than just knowing right from wrong, it’s about the beliefs and values you share or the one’s you don’t. In order to lead a healthy relationship, you and your him need to have a mutual respect and acceptance of each other. In other words, fundamental beliefs such as religion may not seem so important to you now, but trust me eventually it will matter.

3. How does he treat his Mom?
This is probably one of the most key observations that every Skool girl should make when it comes to your him. In most cases how a guy treats his Mom is a good indication of how he will treat you. If he is the kind who treats her with respect, he is most likely going to treat you with respect too. Remember actions speak louder than words, so be careful not to be distracted by the charm of him telling you how gorgeous and irreplaceable you are, because if he treats his Mom poorly it’s only a matter of time before you receive the same treatment.

4. How does he interact with children?
Yes I went there. I personally think that this a perfectly acceptable observation to make as a Skool Girl, I started making observations like this from the age of 16, but maybe I’m just well…not your average girl. Anyway, the point is how he interacts with children is important and this can include his younger siblings, does he handle them with care? Is he kind and playful? Does he do his duties well as a responsible big brother?

5. Does he know when to give you space?
Girls if you have that kind of him who insists that you both be joined to the hip 24/8…RUUN! Please don’t confuse this behaviour with love, it’s called obsession. Any respectable guy will be comfortable enough to let you have your space and allow room for you to both spend time separately with your own individual groups of friends. He is not afraid for you to be out of his sight, because your relationship is built on a foundation of trust and integrity.

6. Does he have a good relationship with his family?
Hey, even I can acknowledge that no one comes from the perfect family, and not everyone will necessarily get on with theirs either. If he is the kind of him that does maintain a strong and healthy relationship with his family this is a bonus. However, if he is the kind who doesn’t speak to his family for sentimental reasons; if you can see he is determined not to make the same mistake for his future family then there’s no harm in giving him a chance.

7. Does he share the same life goals as you do?
Similarly to the moral code, the life goals you and your him share are equally important. Does he want what you want? If his vision of the future similar to yours? If not, is he flexible enough to adjust to what you both may end up wanting? Let’s face it girls, wasting time with someone who does not want what you want, and never will is point blank pointless!

8. Is he really Mr Right for me?
So with all the above questions you have just asked yourself, now it’s time to evaluate if your him is the right guy for you. I’m not saying that people can’t change and I am firm believer that there’s always room for growth and improvement, but let’s keep it real here, some things are just non-negotiable when it comes to a relationship. So before you get tied down too early, make sure you take some time out to consider the kind of him you are letting into your life.

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