Thoughts of a decent girl go a little something like this…
- ‘How is it possible to behave like a decent girl and still get thrown to the wayside like a side-chick?’
- ‘I will always get friend-zoned.’
- ‘No matter what I do I’ll never be good enough for him.’
- ‘Are my standards too high?’
- ‘Maybe I’m too nice.’
- ‘Having a boyfriend is a part-time job, one that I am not willing to sacrifice my dreams for.’
- ‘Is sex all that guys really want?’
- ‘Is it so hard for boys to commit to one person?’
- ‘Sometimes I can’t help but wonder why I’m still single’
- ‘Why should I lower my standards or my wall?’
To answer your question, there’s nothing wrong with you. A decent guy will also see that there’s nothing wrong with you and only what’s so right and wonderful about you. Any guy who causes you to doubt the standards you obtain clearly just isn’t your guy. Who doesn’t respect a young woman with standards? Only a fool. When you truly value the beautiful reflection staring back at you on the other side of the mirror each morning, instead of having the audacity to ask her ‘what’s wrong with me?’, why not ask ‘why do I still continue to give these waste of space, no-good-intention male floozies the time of day?’ There’s no such thing as your standards being ‘too’high, in fact the right guy will make them look so normal, you’ll probably need to raise them pass the usual standard. In fact, he will see that your standards are the secret key to the diamond buried underneath a crushed, pressured and heat intensified heart. It’s not you at all, it’s the kind of guy you choose to entertain who causes you to second guess the young woman of virtue you are. A decent guy will never cause you to continuously panic about his level of commitment, loyalty or allow you to succumb to the pressure of being another name on his bed-post, instead his patience conquers his ‘boy-ish’desires, cuddles your trust and holds the hand of your understanding. You’re not single, destiny says you have been scheduled for greatness, a greatness which requires a certain amount of preparation. Destiny told me to tell you, ‘we have work to do with you, dreams yet still to be reached, ambitions awaiting to be achieved and a life of being content and alone (not lonely) to be embraced.’ Don’t wonder, just wait. The best things in life take a little bit more time, but the end result never fails to amaze. Right now, at this moment find that inner candle, then do yourself, even the world a favour and shatter that window of insecurity, the one that nearly hid you away from love and knocked every bit of strength, confidence and hope you ever placed in life itself. Now ignite that beautiful flame of passion inside of you again, that’s it let it glow, let it speak volumes and let that tiny mustard seed of faith know that, ‘I still believe in this crazy thing called love.’
Dedicated to my Jadey-Cakes x
